• Jessica Gwynne

You are not broken.


You are not broken. And you can't get it wrong.


If you taking nothing else from this post, know that.

What is an area of your life you feel pressure? Is it work? Your business? Parenting?

What if I said to you, no one else is putting pressure on you, but you. The pressure you feel is expectation, you're putting on yourself. Projecting what you think other people would "want" you to do. Your spouse, your boss, your parents, or the vision of you that you consider to be perfect, by believing that you are not.

Sure, you could say 'it's my boss, they want me to blah blah blah..." Does your boss really want you to work 10 hours a day? Do they really want you to achieve 30% up on last year - or is it you trying to prove that you're better than "they" think you are? (In this case, if it is genuinely a boss who is putting immense pressure on you and you don't enjoy it.. it may be worth considering another job. Perhaps then, it's you putting pressure on yourself to stay in a job that doesn't bring you joy. Something to consider)

Back to it then. This expectation you're putting on yourself - where is it coming from? Is it because you want to be better than someone else? Is it because you have an idea of what this situation "should" look like and you're holding yourself to that ideal? In just about all cases, you will be comparing yourself to someone else and in your own mind, falling short.

This feeling of not enoughness, or not getting it "right" - it is not because there is something wrong with you. It is not because you have to fix something. You are not broken.

It is simply a shift in mindset. Of letting it go.

Let go of the comparison. Let go of the need to prove. Let go of the - I don't want to f&%k this up, so I'll do everything I can to make sure I don't.

But you can't get it wrong. You can't f#^k it up. Because every thing, in every moment, is perfect.

Business launch didn't go as planned? You learned something.

Got frustrated at your baby in the middle of the night, because you're tired? You learned something.


Maybe what you learned is that you never want to feel like this again. Perfect. Listen. And Let. It. Go.

Did it 10 times and still didn't change it? It's still not wrong. It just is. At one point in time, the perfect moment in time, you will. And it will be right. Because you cannot get it wrong.


It's up to you to decide when you want to listen. Do you want to hold onto the anger? The frustration? The bitterness? The not enoughness?


Maybe.

It's comfortable.


But one day it will be so uncomfortable you have to change. You have to shift. You have to say, 'ok, I'm ready.'


Ready?


Next time you feel that pressure, be curious. Ask what it really is. And then ask if you're ready to let it go and know, that everything is perfect in that particular moment. And then from that place, take action.


You are not broken. And you can't get it wrong.


I love you.

Jess xo


PS. I feel all of this in my bones. It hurts me when the people in my space, feel these things and that's why I share this openly. My desire is for everyone, me included, to fully and completely feel their own perfection and wholeness. It's an ongoing practice. It's for this reason that my True North Coterie is coming. It's all about having a space where this feeling of completeness is held front and centre, so you can keep bringing yourself back there. I'm so excited about launching it. Soon.... Message me if you want to be the first to know x

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